THE LOVED ONE INFLUENCES

Are you trying to get through network marketing but you feel something is holding you back? Did you ever thought that this thing holding you back could be your brain? That it could be that “loved one influences” that programmed it? Well stay tune because you might get some revelation through that post as I last tonight!

So, like I said, last night I was watching an amazing almost 2 hours course by one of the best, actually the best, top earner in the network marketing profession. His name is Holton Buggs. I highly suggest that you take that 1h51m and look at what he have to say: Holton Buggs – Expanding Your Mind (obviously take time to finish what I have to say here hehehe). So while listening to him, he made me realize what could be one of the biggest problem of all in network marketing: Past Influences from people that we loved and respected.

What is the worst in this is that we probably don’t even know how bad they influences our life. And worst of worst, they don’t have a clue too!!! Mom and dad were probably the first ones to make are brain think in the wrong path for success. School teachers, spouses, bosses, ex-girlfriends, best-friends, siblings. all those people we love/d and respect/ed told us those (sorry for the rude language but) those craps about life. You don’t believe me or understand what I mean. End up those sentences for me please! (took them from Holton’s vids, so maybe it will make you want to listen to what he have to say on it!)

– To succeed in life, you need to go to ….., to have a good ……., to find a good ….,!!!!

– Watch out for those get rich quick …..!!!!

– On your way to success play it …..!!!!

– Money can’t buy ….!!!!

– Good things come to those who ….!!!!

– (my favorite) All rich people are going to ….!!!!

Well I think you got the point! But where those sentences come from? Why are you able to finish them that fast? Your subconscious have been built toward that! By taking for granted what mom and dad said in your early life. Or the pastor or your best friend etc. etc. They didn’t do that to hurt you, they did it with the best intention with love and respect with the best of their own knowledge. So I’m not saying to go see them and tell them that they destroyed your future and bla bla bla, but now that you can see it, like i saw it last night, you can now act on it and see what you can do different and change the way you think!

BREAKING THE LOVED ONE INFLUENCES

There is not 100 ways to do it. And yes you might find it hard at some points. But, if you TRULY want to succeed in life, you won’t be able to keep thinking the way you are. And yes it might involve a change in your inner circle of friends and family. Okay yes, you can’t change your family for a new one haha! But you can make choices about how much time you want to gravitate around them. If your sister is a negative person, you might want to keep talking to her but maybe less, maybe you will need to talk about 5 minutes per time she calls you and not more. You will have choice to make about friends, co-workers and now the most scariest, spouse!!! Is your lady or your man is always negative? Does he/she always trying to keep you at the same level of thinking? Are they really pushing you to the better of yourself? You might want to make a line between him/her and what you think, or slowly introduce him/her to a new way of thinking. That might be the hardest part in your evolution to being a better human being on this planet.

Back in 2007, when i started in network marketing, I had a girlfriend that was always on my case. Probably you heard those ones already`”You never gonna make it happen”, “why are you always out”, “will you meet women in those events”, “oh no, not another meeting”, etc, etc… Well I had to take a decision cause I knew network marketing was my life! I simply love it! And by taking action over action in that time, she decided to leave me. I was goal driven and she didn’t like it. So I gave her the choice to join me in the adventure and start to be a better person today or leave. She chose the easy way by staying the same and leave. I’m sure she is an amazing person, can’t talk against her hehe, I chose her so I would talk against me at the same time lol…. but she wasn’t the one that would support me and make me a better person. Same for some friends and family members, if you go read my bio you will see why I had to leave some friends on the side to reach where I wanted to go.

Now enough talking about my past, let’s talk about your future. What do you want to do? And are you ready to do what it takes to make it happen? I’m not saying leave everyone you know. But choose when and how much time you want to see/talk to them!

THE IMPORTANCE OF THINKING YOUR WAY

The second thing to change is your way to think and your way to talk. Holton call this: “The Domino Effect” which I think is the good name for it! Life is like a path of dominoes, but there are many paths that you can choose to walk in and make the others fall in place. “Tell me what’s on your mind all the time and i’ll predict your future”. This saying is talking about what people think all the time. Listen to them talk about what they hate all the time. “People don’t have enough off what they say they want and always have too much of what they say they don’t want”. Is this rings any bells to you with the other sentence just above? Yes they are connected. People talks too much about what they don’t like so in result, they get what they don’t like. Life and subconscious don’t qualify good or bad. They quantify if this person thinks a lot about it and if yes, they might enjoy that so let’s bring it alive in his life!

So start writing goal, writing what you want, what you like, your desire, every day, even if it’s the 198163254713458179 time that you write it. Write them to present tense like: “I am grateful today because I’ve reach the 1000$ a week in my business”. And repeat it to yourself over and over again. Say it from a heart felt feeling. Feel it like if it was real. Holton said something interesting in his training. “Do you know people that lie so much that they finally believe their lies?” We all know people like that. But know it’s time to trick yourself. LIE TO YOU!!! AGAIN AND AGAIN!! till your subconscious thinks it’s real! Repeat and repeat and repeat non-stop till it becomes your reality!

Well I hope this will help you in your career in network marketing. Please leave a comment below on what you liked the best about that post. And please feel free to share it with your team.

With love and care!